My wife Elmine has given me a great gift. A day per week.
In the past year if not two, if not longer, I have always filled my time with work. (My most recent ‘play’ projects seem to be from 2009) Although I have a wide variety of things I say I will do if I have time, it never happens as all the other stuff comes first. So there are Arduinos and Raspberry Pi gadgets lying around and unpacked fablab machines, without me ever touching them. There is code I would like to write, books to read, stuff to blog, but it never happens.
Even when I am at home, it does not happen. I want to spend time with Elmine, and there are the usual chores around the house and friends to meet. The notion I will do something fun ‘if I have some time left’ in reality simply means never.
So Elmine gave me a piece of advice and a gift. The advice was to plan a day per week for me. Just block one day in my calendar. To play, to experiment, to read, to write, or simply to sleep. A day to not pick up the phone or look at email. The gift is that Elmine will not ask me anything that day either. No walks outside, no chores around the house, no cooking. And the day includes the evening.
So that is tomorrow. My first day that I allow myself in a long time, which I would not have done without Elmine’s advice and gift. 16 hours of nothing or everything, whatever I decide. Tomorrow I have a ‘play date’ with me.